Little Biggs Baby: Pregnancy #2 update + things we're doing differently this time
I wanted to stop in today for a quick check-in about my pregnancy with baby #2!
I’m officially in the third trimester now (29 weeks!) and excited that each day brings us one day closer to meeting this sweet baby boy. Overall, this pregnancy has been pretty similar to when I was pregnant with Logan - I’m lucky to feel pretty good most of the time, even though I’m tired and Logan seems to soak up most of my energy during the day. I did feel more sick in the first trimester than I did with Logan, but even that was mild compared to most people (with the exception of the one time that I gave Logan a banana and immediately vomited in the kitchen sink). The second trimester was filled with the usual - Thai food cravings, leggings, and finally feeling this little love kick. Now, I’m nesting furiously, reading all the baby books, and preparing for the arrival of another baby boy!
While in a lot of ways this pregnancy is more of the same, there’s also a lot of differences. With Logan I chose a local OB/GYN practice, where I received high-quality but ultimately very typical care. Logan was born in a hospital, after an induction, and there were a number of factors related to our care during and after the birth that left me with hesitations about the standard model of care.
In the time between my pregnancies, I had the wonderful opportunity to get to know other mothers and learn about the birth choices they had made, including midwifery and out-of-hospital birth. So, when I got pregnant again, I decided that it was time to really evaluate our family’s priorities and the kind of care provider we wanted this time around. We interviewed a few providers, including a family practice doctor, a nurse-midwife who delivers at our local hospital, and a professional midwife who does home births and deliveries at a small birth center near our home. While we liked all of them, we ultimately chose the professional midwife.
This is a big change for us - instead of 15 minute meetings with a rotating suite of physicians, I see the same midwife for every appointment (which lasts 30-45 minutes). Instead of being told that certain tests need to be done, I can take the time to discuss the risks, benefits, and alternatives with both my midwife and my husband before I make a final choice. I was able to get all of the same genetic testing that the OB/GYN office provides, as well as ultrasounds and blood work, but I also have been able to actually see the test results instead of being told “everything’s fine”. I have been able to monitor my blood sugar levels at home instead of drinking the infamous “orange drink” and getting a blood draw at the hospital. Since my pregnancy is ultimately pretty low-risk, I’m able to make decisions that align with that level of risk.
For me, this is all part of a much larger picture of my health and the relationship I want with my care providers - I not only want to feel like I trust them, but that they trust me to make the decision that is best for me. That they trust my capacity to look at the evidence they present, and provide informed consent when I’m ready. This is such a powerful feeling that doesn’t happen every day, and has allowed me to move through this pregnancy with a confidence and peace that I haven’t felt before.
When our son is born, our plan is to have a team of people that we know and trust present. To use the confidence and peace I’ve been cultivating to allow my body to do what it needs to do, and to welcome our son into the world in a gentler, more peaceful way than we’ve done before.
I’m working on another post that goes into more detail about the differences between midwifery care and OB/GYN care - do you have any questions about the differences? Ultimately, it’s all about understanding risk and understanding what is right for your family. No one choice is universal, which is why it’s so great that options exist.